It was hard for me at first to understand what Paul was trying to say in his letter the Romans. I guess what bothered me was the part about being predestined. After all, isn't there free will? I think he was saying that if we look back at all that has happened to us and try to understand it all, there is a purpose. Being predestined does not relieve us of the responsibility of trying or doing but rather puts the burden on us of understanding or interpreting what his purpose is. We are not alone in seeking that understanding, for we can ask God's help in understanding of what his purpose is.